Friday, June 29, 2012

May Date

The First Date of Christmas:  January
The Second Date of Christmas:  February
The Third Date of Christmas:  March
The Fourth Date of Christmas:  April

The Fifth Date of Christmas

Remember how last month was a flop?  Yeah, that happened again.  Whatever...judge me all you want.  I blame it on my husband.  Isn't that why we all got married in the first place?  Now, I always have someone to blame my mistakes on!  Hooray!  Go marriage!  


I was SO excited about this date!  =)  I gave him an envelope filled with all sorts of treasures.

All he had to do was pick a place he'd like to visit for a one-day vacation.  SO simple.  He could go crazy here!  I was expecting for him to say something like "India" or "The Bahamas" or somewhere that has a theme.  The plan was for him to pick a place, and I would turn our extra room over the garage into the destination he chose.  If he chose India, I would decorate the room to look like India.  I would cook Indian food.  We would listen to Indian music.  We would play an Indian board game or watch a movie set in India.  Makes sense, right?  All he had to do was pick a place with a theme I could work with.

He chose "The Snowy Mountains."  Let me remind you that May in South Carolina tends to be rather warm.  That made the whole idea of sitting around a camp fire sound pretty miserable.  What do people eat in the mountains? know...regular food.  It was theme I could not work with.  And so the month came and went and I didn't follow through with the date I promised.



The 12 Dates of Christmas

January Date
February Date
March Date
April Date
May Date
June Date
July Date
August Date
September Date
October Date
November Date
December Date


April Date


The First Date of Christmas:  January
The Second Date of Christmas:  February
The Third Date of Christmas:  March

The Fourth Date of Christmas

In March, I gave him a coupon book.  Half-way through the month, we switched months.  I took the coupon book back, shelved it, and gave him the April Date envelope.  Inside the envelope was money for us to attend a concert and the band we had planned on seeing was playing nearby that weekend and he wanted to go and there was no talking him out of it.  So, we went on the April Date in March and I would give him the coupon book back once April rolled around.  Yes, it's confusing.  

Well, the April Date sucked because he didn't use any of the coupons.  Epic fail.  And they were good coupons, too!  Some of them were so good, I'm not even going to tell you about them.  The point is, my creative efforts on the coupon book were wasted because sometimes men are men and they don't get it.  Lesson learned...


Thursday, June 28, 2012

The Crazy Stuff Happening At Our Church, Part Three

Our church is going through a rough patch right now, and it may push us to leave and find a new church to call home.  I have written two different posts about the crazy things that have happened.  Many of you may have read one or both of the posts.  

You'll notice that I'm not including links to either of those posts.  
I've reverted them back to drafts, so they're no longer public on my blog.

Honestly, I was really torn on whether or not I should delete the posts.  On one hand, deleting Parts 1 & 2 would not erase them from the minds of people who read them.  Deleting the posts would prevent more people from learning the ins & outs of the situation, but I couldn't reverse anything.  On the other hand, I thought it might be better to just leave the posts up and continue to blog about what's happening at our church.  If I'm going to expose all of the bad things, shouldn't I blog about the conflict resolution, too?  That would only be fair.  

Meanwhile, a friend of mine from church and I were chatting.  We're both very upset and have no clue what to do next.  She said all she could do was open her Bible, and then she told me to read Romans 12:18-21, so I did.  This is what I read:    

Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.  Dear friends, never take revenge.  Leave that to the righteous anger of God.  For the Scriptures say, "I will take revenge; I will pay them back," says the Lord.  Instead, "If your enemies are hungry, feed them.  If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.  In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads."  Don't let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.  (NLT)

Believe me when I say that this is so hard for me to admit, but I felt instantly convicted when I read the words, Don't let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.  They felt like hot chocolate during winter and I knew that I had to delete the posts I had written about the things happening at church.  The posts were evidence that I was letting evil win.  They were borderline gossip, and it had to stop.  When I was writing the post, I was just trying to make sense of my emotions.  To those of you who read about the crazy things happening at our church, you know what's going on and you know how I feel about it.  I am just sad inside about so many different things happening at a church I've called my own for my entire life.  I wasn't trying to gossip, I wasn't trying to cast myself or my faith in a negative light...I was just trying desperately to wrap my brain about something illogical to me.  But, in doing so, I know I made some mistakes, said some things I should never have said, and made a private situation a little too public for the nature of what's going on.  My intentions were purely selfish ... and I didn't think about how my words might impact the Kingdom.  It is my hope that I didn't turn anyone off or away from God.  I love my Lord.  There are so many things I don't understand, but it's never made me second guess following Him.  My salvation is the best part of me, arguable the only good part of me, and it's the best choice I ever made.  My posts about the crazy things happening at church right now did not reflect any of the emotions I just described, and for that I am truly sorry.  

However, we did have a business meeting last night at church.  If you missed the two previous posts, all I say about the back story is that some changes were being made to our Church Constitution that my husband and I did not agree with because we felt like the changes were unBiblical.  The issues with the constitution have been resolved - someone made the motion last night to send the entire constitution to a committee.  The committee would include 7 people, carefully selected.  Our main problem with the constitution as it was proposed was that it included really wonderful standards in the format of a covenant, but we couldn't make a promise to God that we weren't able to live up to.  Now, the committee will re-work everything and represent all of the different points of view.  

There are still some issues that haven't been resolved.  We're praying about the things that have happened, are happening, and will happen.  Are we completely satisfied with the way things are at church right now?  Simply put ... no, we are not.  Will we leave our church and find another?  Perhaps.  Time will tell.  One thing I do know is that I want to be a better Christian.  I want to do a better job of conquering evil, regardless of what "reason" (read, excuse) I think I have.  
An extra special "thank you" to the people who told me some things I wrote about were out of line.  I appreciate the honesty I received from you and from Mr. Robinson.  ;)  Some things probably do need to be kept more private than others, and this is a prime example.  I'll get back to the fun posts tomorrow!  =)  Keep an eye out for posts about the 12 Dates of Christmas, our honeymoon, and a VLOG!  Oh snap.  

Also, did you notice I've got new buttons?! 


200 x 100

200 x 100


Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Women at Crossroad's Recap

I have talked and talked and talked about Women at Crossroads, and I'm finally going to tie up all the lose ends and give everyone a break on the topic.  Until next year.  {Because there will hopefully be a next year!}

In this post I talked about how excited I was to finally see the conference materialize.  The whole thing started in March, and the thought of pulling a conference together in three months was a little overwhelming.  I wrote about my battle between peace and anxiety over what might happen at the conference.  And then in this post I wrote the day before the conference, I expressed my fears and frustrations.  All a part of the process, or so I'm told.  So I want to start this post out with a big "thank you."  So many of y'all offered me encouragement while my head was spinning off into another dimension.  Every comment and e-mail helped calm me down.  Not to mention all of the prayers that were said for this conference.  I can tell that tons of prayers went up for Women at Crossroads because the end result was more amazing than I could have ever imagined.  =)  

   June 8 & 9, 2012

Friday, June 8:  6:30 pm - 8:30 pm

We started off in the Fellowship Hall.  You'll notice in the pictures that everyone "working" the conference was dressed in black and had pink lanyard name tags around their necks.  Guests were met by some ladies from our church passing out goody bags.  The goody bags were absolutely amazing.  I was so pleased with them.  Every guest got one, and every bag included a Gideon's Bible, an Itinerary for the weekend, spray hand sanitizer, a Women at Crossroad's notepad, a pink Women at Crossroad's click pen (who doesn't love a good click pen?!), some scripture tracts, mints, gum, a pack of Kleenexes, and a registration card.   We also had sticky name tags for everyone so that we could hopefully learn names and make strong connections with everyone who attended.

Then, we had a little station set up for mom's to sign their children in to child watch services.  We didn't know most of the children or mothers, so we had a system where each child got a numbered name tag and the mom's got their number.  To pick their children up, they had to have the right number.  We also got the mom's name, child's name, and any special care instructions.  

Then, we all ate dinner together.  My sweet daddy and some other men from the church spent all day Friday bbq-ing chicken.  

We had lots of wonderful helpers in the kitchen, including my darling husband.  =)  He was so supportive of the entire thing and I can't sing his praises enough.  

It was so great to see different races mingled together in an all-white church.  Where we live, going to church is very much a family event and churches tend to be either all black or all white because of it.  It was great to have both.  =)  

After everyone had fully tummies, we moved into the sanctuary.  We borrowed furniture from a local furniture company to decorate the stage.  Even though the conference was obviously held at a church, I wanted to make sure everyone felt comfortable and casual all weekend, free to be themselves.

  Another thing I loved about the conference was the mixed-up order of everything.  It was so different from a regular church service, and I loved the "spice" of doing things out of the ordinary.  A local lady sang for us and led us in a praise and worship song.  Her voice gave me goosebumps.  Our main event for the night was a speaker named Maria Owens.  She's regionally renowned and does conferences all over the southeast.  You may have heard of her - her name is Maria Owens.  She has such an amazing story and the fact that she came to our little hick-town conference was icing on the cake.

After the conference was over, everyone was invited back to the Fellowship Hall for dessert and coffee.

  We encouraged everyone to come back fro Saturday but some people let us know they wouldn't be able to.  Still, everyone was just overflowing from what happened Friday night.  We cried, worshiped, held hands, praised God, and were ourselves.  Everyone in the Fellowship Hall was bubbling over.  Later, my dad told me he looked at my husband and said to him "Look what our girl did," and Mr. R got choked up and couldn't respond.  That just melts my heart.  =)  And not to toot my own horn in ANY way, but I was just so emotional the entire day because God gave me this idea.  I was obedient, and everything that happened was because of HIM and not me...but a part of me just could not believe the amazing thing I had put together.  It was a late night & Saturday would be an early morning, so after everyone left we cleaned up and headed home to get some rest lay in bed and think about everything, unable to sleep because of the excitement.  =)
Saturday, June 9:  9:30 am - Noon

Saturday was a completely different format from Friday.  We did start out with food again, breakfast in the Fellowship Hall.  We chowed down on fruit, cereals, granola bars, yogurts, muffins, and topped it all off with juices or coffee.  Then we headed on over to the Sanctuary again where one of our church members briefly discussed the good and bad girls of the Bible.  It was really cool to hear about the bad girls who had happy endings.  Obviously those are stories I can relate to pretty well.  We had more praise and worship music, and we even had a little comedy skit that had us all laughing to tears.  Then, we broke off into small groups that met in classrooms.  We had five topics and everyone got to choose two classes to attend.

The topics were:
  1. Sexual Abuse - led by a woman who was sexually abused by her uncle and cousins from the age of 3 until she was a young teenager.
  2. Depression - led by a woman who struggles with clinical depression, an inherited  from her father who committed suicide
  3. Being a Single Mom - led by two single mother's with completely different circumstances and upbringings
  4. Drug & Alcohol Abuse - led by me, having struggled with drug & alcohol abuse from the age of 14 to 22.
  5. How Well Do You Know Your Women - led by a church elder, discussing women of the Bible further and the importance of being well-schooled on them
After the second class, we invited everyone back over the Fellowship Hall for prizes and dessert.  We had a table of prizes set up and we drew from the registration cards.  We gave away Bath & Body Works candles, lotions, and body sprays; local cookbooks; a ton of items donated by Tupperware; devotional books, Christian CD's; a wax warmer and three different wax scents; some Christian comedy DVD's; and a set of stainless steel kitchen spoons with a canister.

Every single person in attendance got a prize because of the enormous amount of prize donations that were made by church members and local businesses.  We were also able to give away one grand prize...and the grand prize was a complete surprise to everyone attending and to most of the conference workers.  Only 8 people knew what the grand prize was in advance.  

Because of the generous donations of two local businesses, we were able to give away the living room set that was displayed on stage all weekend.  That's one sofa, one love seat, one chair, one coffee table, two end tables, two lamps, and a rug.  =)  

I want to share with y'all the story of the woman who won our grand prize.  Her name is Marian, and she's from Florida.  She has a son who lives here, and while visiting him she attended a church that advertised Women at Crossroads.  She thought it sounded interesting and decided she would come back up for another visit so that she could attend the conference.  I learned this because she was in one of my Drug & Alcohol Abuse classes.  She was the only one in the room I wasn't familiar with, so I asked her name.  She told me her name is Marian, and she told me why she was there.  She also told me, "You'll remember me."  Later that day, when I drew for the grand prize drawing of the living room set and pulled her name, she just erupted with tears.  The look on her face was of sheer disbelief.  After the crowd had calmed down, I went and talked to Marian.  She tearfully told me about her son and his family, and how much they struggle to make ends meet.  She wanted to give the living room set to her son because their living conditions are very poor.  I was happy that the living room set was going to someone in need.  She was happy because she was able to help her son in a way she would not have been able to, otherwise.  The fact that SHE won is a total God thing.  Can you imagine how many different things had to fall into place for a woman from Florida to be able to attend a tiny little first-time conference in South Carolina?  God put all the pieces together long before I ever came into the picture.  Every single thing about Women at Crossroads screamed to me...

God is Good.  =)  

I still can't believe that God used me in such a big way.  I would say I'm at a loss for words, but that's clearly not true based on the super long post I just wrote.  It was such a busy weekend, but it was such a blessing.  I'm honored and humbled that God chose me.  He picked me to lead this, and He made all the pieces fall perfectly into place every step of the way.  Every fear and frustration I had along the way was comforted by His shining perfection.  For the first time in my marriage, I feel good about serving along side my husband.  I feel like God used this conference to teach me so many things about Him, about others, and about myself.  I hope that He wants us to do this conference again next year.  I hope that the problems within our church clear up or that I can bring the conference with me wherever I go.  It was such a huge cup runneth over...and through the conference I've been asked to serve in other ways in my community.  I am proof that God can take a mess and turn it into a message.  And I'm just so incredibly thankful.  To God be the glory.      


Monday, June 25, 2012

Marriage Monday


Welcome to Marriage Monday's ~ the one day out of the week where I discuss what's going on in our marriage, good or bad.

We had such a wonderful & relaxing weekend, other than going to church on Sunday.  That kind of sucked, actually.  Yes, I know...what a horrible thing to say.  Our church is just not a happy place to be right now - there is so much tension in the air and everyone's emotions are running at an all time high.  I have some more news for y'all on this later this week, but if you don't know what I'm talking can read the whole story here.  Even though some unpleasant things are happening within our church right now, having a godly husband has made all the difference.  He's had some really great advice through everything and he's been strong for me.  

Yesterday when we left church, I just got into the car and started sobbing.  I can't seem to wrap my brain around the things going on right now, and Mr. Robinson just drove us home and let me cry.

We've been married for a little over 9 months, and we've been together less than a year and a half total.  We still haven't reached the point in our relationship where I feel like I can cry to him.  When I cry, the poor guy has no clue what to do.  Sometimes he gets angry, sometimes he fusses at me, sometimes he ignores me...none of those things make me feel any better.  But it's hard to hold it against him since he really doesn't know what to do and we haven't been together long enough or gone through enough hard times for him to know what I need in those moments.  But this Sunday, he just let me cry.  He didn't say anything, he didn't do anything.  He drove.  I cried.  And in some weird, twisted was nice.  It was nice just to have him there.  It was nice to cry in front of him, because I usually run into the bedroom and hide when I feel tears coming on.  

When we got home, I leaned into him for a hug with my face turned away so that I didn't get makeup on his white shirt.  We went inside, got the dogs, and went to my parent's house for lunch.  When we returned, we laid on the sofas and watched House until it was time for bed.  We didn't go back to church last night ... 

I felt uneasy all day.  I still feel uneasy this morning.  But I know my husband is there for me, and it makes a world of difference.  

So my goal for this week is to be a better wife to him, too.  I told him my plan this morning and he responded with a "Well, we have to start going to bed at 8:30."

I leave for work every morning at 8:45 am to be at work by 9.  Mr. R hasn't made any money in the past few weeks because it's easy for him to get distracted once I leave the house.  From what I can tell, he usually spends some time in the word, watches ESPN, and just kind of hangs out.  Sometimes he visits with a friend of his, sometimes he comes by my work and talks to me or my dad.  I've done nothing but make the problem worse...because when I work all day and come home to find him laying on the sofa, and the house looks a mess....the next morning, I leave him a list of chores.  My logic is that if he's going to spend all day at home, he might as well do some housework to help lighten my load.

And yes, if he's home all day he should help out around the house.  I come home and housework is done, so I'm happy.  The problem here is that I'm being selfish when I should be encouraging.  I told him this morning we're going to start waking up at 6 am instead of 8.  We'll spend some time studying the Bible together, have coffee, and get ready.  Hopefully if we start our day off productively, that pattern will continue for the rest of the day.  So...our bedtime has moved from 10 pm to 8:30, I suppose.  =)   It's a sacrifice I'm willing to make so that we can start being better friends for each other.  He gave me exactly what I needed by letting me cry in the car, and I should be giving him exactly what he needs too.  


Saturday, June 23, 2012

Mr. Robinson's 24th Birthday Feast Week!

So last year my then-fiance turned 23.  I thought I was being clever by giving him lingerie, for me, that he had to hold on to until the honeymoon.  Wrong.  He hated it.  So I tried extra hard to make up for my birthday-fail from last year.  This post is pretty late...his birthday was May 23...but better late than never.  :)  My plan for over-compensation was to plan a week-long feast featuring all of his favorite foods AND shower him with gifts each day.  Since his parents weren't able to come up on his actual birthday, they came up for the weekend of May 11th and stayed the night with us for the first time!  =)  We went and had lunch at a water-front restaurant in town and came home for some cupcakes I made.  Mr. Robinson's parents gave him a weed-eater and I gave him swimming trunks.  :)

Homemade Vanilla Cupcakes, Mr. R wearing his new shorts (top right), & playing with this new toy (bottom right).

Here are some pictures from his Birthday-Week-Extravaganza!

His "go-to-hell" hat

Homemade Pizza for the FEAST!

He got excited about getting The Franchise.  =)  And the pizza was pretty great.  

The Grill-Master & His Apron and Tools 
Birthday Cake!  My first layer-cake, no less.  :) 

New Shades :)

My First attempt at Homemade Fries for the FEAST
Homemade Burgers & Buns for the FEAST!  =)  

I think we all made up for last year.  =)  His birthday gifts included a weed-eater, a watch, a "go-to-hell" hat, season one of The Franchise, a new grill, a Giant's apron (for grilling), two pairs of swimming trunks, a pair of shorts, a SPF long-sleeved t-shirt (because he burns very easily in the sun & we are going to Mexico in July!), we both bought some cheap shades at Walgreens, and a pair of black dress shoes.  We also hate his favorite foods all, hot dogs, hamburgers, spicy chicken nuggets, etc.  It was a great week & I hope he felt like a king when it was all over.  :)  


Friday, June 22, 2012

Three Hints The Honeymoon Phase is Over

Y'all know I like to keep it real.  I blog-all-about-it and today you can find "it" on Autumn's blog, Mrs. in the Making.  The post is about three ways to know the honeymoon phase if go check it out.  =)   I'm an expert, after all, since I've been married for 9 months and stuff.

Also, the Color Run in Charlotte, NC is coming up in November and the registration is opening next week I've heard.  If you want to join our team so that you can meet some really wonderful bloggers (myself included, obviously) you should click here.  

And one other thing - if you want to be a July Sponsor on My New Wife Life {for free}, I have three spots left and one of 'em has your name it on.  Get the details here.  

The hubby and I are going on Date #6 of his Christmas gift - a comedy show!  =)  Super excited about that tonight.  Everyone have a great weekend!  =)  And don't forget to go check out my guest post!  


The Charlotte Color Run Blogger Link Up & Meet Up

So there is a Color Run in Charlotte, NC coming up on November 17, 2012 and a few of us have decided to use the Color Run as an opportunity to meet some Carolina Bloggers.  =)  


The color run will take place at the Charlotte Motor Speedway on November 17th.  It starts at 9 am!  It's a 5K, which is 3.1 miles of running or walking.  It's not timed, so there's no pressure for you to be extremely physically fit or anything.  The Color Run is all for fun, and for us it's about fun & mingling with other bloggers.  :)  At the Color Run, you'll get covered head-to-toe in safe, colored powder (similar consistency to powdered sugar) and look like the people in the above pictures.  My husband will be coming with me because he wants to throw powder at people, haha!  =)  

Anyway, the price per runner is between $30 and $40, but we'll know more once registration opens up next week.  They are pairing up with the Habitat for Humanity Charity, which will benefit from the money we pay to participate.  There a dress code for the race - they ask that you wear a white shirt.  It helps all the colors show up better.  =)    We'll get a discount for registering as a team and I think they offer a discount for early registration.  Again, we'll know more once registration opens.  You can find out more information about the Color Run on their website, or by visiting their Twitter and Facebook pages.  If you've already joined our team or if you're planning on it, it's recommended that you sign up for e-mail updates.  This will ensure that you're alerted as soon as registration opens because the race tends to fill up quickly.    

Where does the Blogger Meet Up come in?  Since the race starts on that Saturday morning, some people who are coming from out of town will want to spend Friday night in Charlotte.  The plan is for everyone to go back to their homes or hotel rooms after the race, shower & get cleaned up, and then meet somewhere downtown for cocktails, maybe appetizers?  We'll see what happens - if you have any ideas, message me! If you are interested in joining our team for the Color Run, please link up below so that we know who you are and how to get our team info to you.

Any questions?  Leave a comment or feel free to e-mail me at MyNewWifeLife(at)aol(dot)com.  

Thursday, June 21, 2012

The Day After The Perfect Day

Hopefully you've read all about our love by this point.  If you're new, you certainly need to know how we met and fell head over heels in love.  Then, you won't be able to stop yourself from drooling over our wonderful, orange-tinted dream wedding.  You can click here for all of that.  When it was all over, we had an amazing honeymoon that Mr. Robinson kept a secret for 5 months.  

Originally, we started planning our honeymoon together.  We talked about going to the mountains for a week.  Suddenly, my soon-to-be-husband decided I was not going to have anything to do with the honeymoon plans.  If you are a control freak like me, you know how devastating it is to lose control over the single most important week of your life, but I went with it and tried to trust him.  After all, he was going to be my husband!  :)  I still figured that we would go to the mountains and decided to let him have his fun.  As the wedding approached, I started pestering him for hints and clues.  No dice.  

I finally convinced him to him me a weather-related hint so that I could buy some new clothes!  :)  He told me we were going somewhere "tropical-ish."  That changed my guess from the mountains to the Florida Keys.  I was in for quite the surprise.  :)    

September 10, 2011
5:30 pm
We said "I will" and made the single most important promise one person can make to another.

9:00 pm
We left the reception because we thought it was much later than 9:00.  We were also poorly prepared because we left the reception in a 1957 Corvette.  That was not the car we'd be driving to the airport and leaving in the parking lot for a week, obviously.  Mr. Robinson thought we were taking my car to the airport.  I thought we were taking his car.  Ergo, we had no car to take to their airport other than the Corvette my dad was coming to pick up later that night.  Also, my parents had my luggage and his parents had his luggage.  Oh, and I was crying hysterically because the perfect day was over AND I was experiencing some anxiety about leaving my parents.  My poor husband spent the next hour calming me down.    

10:00 pm
My parents come to our honeymoon suite to bring our luggage.  Also, we realized that we couldn't take our wedding attire on the honeymoon with us and decided to give our clothes to my parents.  I couldn't get out my dress by myself...I didn't want my mom in my honeymoon suite.  So this meant my parents had to wait downstairs while my new husband undressed me.  Awkward.  They took the Corvette with them.  After they left, I showered for the first time all day - haha!  My husband removed the millions of bobby pins from my head, and we got to work.  ;)  Sometime during the night, his parents were kind enough to drive to our house 30 minutes away to get his car, drive 45 minutes to our hotel and drop the car off, and another 45 minutes back to our house where the groom's family spent the night.        

We got about 2-3 hours sleep in the room we paid $170 for.  

September 11, 2011
Yes, I was nervous about  flying on 9-11.  No, security wasn't any heavier than normal & we had no problems.  
2:30 am
We woke up so early we missed the "breakfast" part of the "bed & breakfast."  But, it was necessary because we had a plane to catch!  Honeymoon Status, yo!  

4:00 am
We were at the Myrtle Beach airport.  My grandparents were there leaving for their vacation to Aruba.  They asked how our night was.  Awkward.  My husband finally told me that we were flying from MB to Charlotte and from Charlotte to St. Maarten!  =)  Since y'all know what my guess was, you know I was surprised by our honeymoon destination!  I was absolutely ecstatic and thrilled and so happy!  

We pretty much spent the day after our wedding making out in various airports.  We had lunch for breakfast in Charlotte.  Chicken Parmigiana Bagels.  Weird & delicious.  

Next honeymoon post will have more pictures and less words.  Promises, promises.  :)  


Wednesday, June 20, 2012


So, my dad and sister are both on depression/anxiety medication.  I've always wondered if I inherited that trait, and if so...when would it decide to become evident in my personality & life?  During a recent fight the hubby and I were having, I said "Maybe I just need to get back on my medication!"  (I took anti-anxiety medication during wedding-planning).  His response was..."Maybe you do."  I'm not even going to go into a big long paragraph about how it feels to hear your husband tell you that you may need medication, haha, so we'll just skip right over that part.  I made an appointment with my regular doctor, not a therapist.  Mostly because my general care doctor knows me pretty well and treats me dad, so I could skip the full-on explanation with him.  I knew he would refer me to a specialist if he deemed it necessary.  

That appointment was yesterday.  

We discussed anxiety as an inherited issue.
We discussed anxiety as it negatively impacts my marriage.
We discussed the possibility of my anxiety only recently presenting itself in my life because I've self medicated myself with drugs & alcohol throughout high school, college, & beyond.
We discussed my fears about how taking medication might be me resulting back to drug-seeking behavior or using drugs to solve all my problems, take the easy way out, etc.
And obviously, we discussed all of my symptoms.   

He told us that there are three common misconceptions regarding depression or anxiety, none of which are true:
(1) Taking medication is a sign of weakness.
(2)  If my faith was stronger, I could give this to God and let Him heal me.
(3) I need to wake up tomorrow, make myself get over this, and no longer have this problem.

He compared depression and anxiety to diabetes.  Is taking insulin a sign of weakness?  Do diabetics have the luxury of praying their disease away and not taking insulin in the meantime?  Can diabetics wake up and decide they aren't diabetics anymore?  No.  He said the same applies to chemical imbalances - it's just a different chemical than insulin.  All of those things made me feel better and less embarrassed, and I think they may have helped my husband gain a better understanding.  

I'm taking the off-brand version of Zoloft.  I have another appointment in two months to evaluate the use of medication.  So....that's where we are on the whole anxiety issue.  Plenty of y'all have offered encouragement to me...and I deeply appreciate it.  :)  The anxiety isn't something I experience right now, I'm fine.  Most of the time, I'm fine.  Hopefully this medicine will keep me that way.  =)        


Part Thirteen: The Getaway

Post # 13 is the last wedding post I'll do.  :)  I've enjoyed recapping the entire day and have loved the sweet comments from y'all.  =)  


[Part One] [Part Two] [Part Three] [Part Four] [Part Five] [Part Six] [Part Seven] [Part Eight] [Part Nine] [Part Ten] [Part Eleven]

Me tearfully hugging my parents goodbye.. 
Mr. talking to his dad...because we realized we don't have any of our luggage in the get-a-way car!  & Me...still crying  

One of my favorite pictures...look behind the car to the right.  My husband shaking my daddy's hand before we leave. heart stops.  =) 

After we left the reception, we road across town to spend the night at a Bed & Breakfast on the waterfront.  Mr. Robinson's parents brought us our luggage & his car (we had a little lack of communication haha), my parents came to get my gown & his tuxedo so that we wouldn't have to take them on our honeymoon...and then I cried all over again.  My poor husband...haha!  I was a mess!  I was so sad that the wedding was over and it just hit me all of a sudden that I was separate from my parents now.  Even though I was excited to be married it was sad at the same time, because I had just recently entered into SUCH a great relationship with my parents.  After they all left, I showered because (as you may remember) I didn't shower the morning of my wedding.  I didn't shave my legs until after the wedding either.  Rule-breaker.  =)   And since we had to be at the airport at like 4:30 in the morning, we got around...oh...2 or 3 hours of sleep.  =)  I can't wait to start telling y'all all about our amazing fairy-tale honeymoon next!  Thanks so much for reading all about our perfect wedding day.  If you missed anything, you can start from the beginning by clicking here.  

& they lived happily after... 

Coo Coo Kachoo, 
Mrs. Robinson